Next week, we'll mark our 20th wedding anniversary. So, I thought I would share some anniversary trivia.
#1-- We eloped while our college was on spring break! There was no big wedding. No parents or walking down the aisle. He wore a suit and I wore a simple white dress with yellow forsythia in my hair. We had a church wedding with our three pastors. They just happened to all three have wide open schedules that day, which was so unusual for a church that size. There were 4 people in attendance not counting our best man and maid of honor who both wore jeans to the ceremony. (They didn't have much notice!) The maid of honor's husband took the only pictures we have of our wedding, because JP forgot to put film in his camera. The music minister sang a song and played his guitar, but I can't really remember it. It was one of those standard wedding songs. I was just too nervous and I'm so surprised I could repeat my vows.
#2-- Before we got married and even long after, we didn't have much money. As we were buying the bare minimum for our wedding--license, dress, shoes, flower for me to hold, it was tight. We had $60 to buy our two wedding bands. So, we headed down to the local pawn shop to see what we could find. We found 2 rings we liked and then he told us how much they were. Too much! He must have seen our downcast eyes, because he suddenly remembered a discount on rings. $56 with tax. We had just a little over $2 left. I still love that band...it reminds me of young love that just doesn't care about such things.
#3--We postponed our honeymoon for a year because of #2. We took a weekend to go to this remote bed and breakfast at Fall Creek Falls State Park. It was wonderful! For more Three Things Thursday, head on over to Heidi's blog!
Just in the past week or so, JP has changed schedules--radically! He went from basically the night shift to a day shift. He now gets up earlier than when he was going to bed just a few weeks ago. I love this new schedule! We will have a long time before we get all the kinks worked out, but we're getting there. One day, I actually had DINNER ready before 3 PM. My timing needs some adjustment.
Another issue is alone time.
We are celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary next week...20 YEARS!!! Our house is over 100 years old, so it has a unique set up. Off of our bedroom is a smaller bedroom that was Michael's nursery. It would be great for each of our kids to have their own bedroom, but there is no way that they can traipse through our room to get to it. So, we are blessed to have our own little spot off of our bedroom.
So far it has looked like this....piled up boys' clothes that need to be sorted...
unused exercise equipment, Christmas paper, luggage, baby gates, and that big pile in the middle that needed to be donated.
I had this idea that I would clean out the room, donate the pile and find places for the other things. No easy feat. I about had a heart attack the day we donated the things. They had to be moved from our upstairs to downstairs and from there to the car. We took them to the CCI where we had to carry them through the building and up 2 flights of stairs. There were other donated things that needed to go upstairs, too. Let's just say, I can finally move my arms again.
This is in the middle of our redecoration. The kids and I hung curtain rods, vacuumed, cleaned windows and baseboards.
Then, we hung pictures. These aren't just any works of art. All of the paintings in "Daddy's room" were painted by Uncle Curtis and Pop Pop (my husband's grandfather). Most of Uncle Curtis' art is abstract and just didn't fit with our other decor. But in the blank canvas of this getaway room, they are perfect!!
I absolutely love how this room turned out. We spent only $2 (for new curtain rods) to turn this storage room into a nice functional get away. Eventually, we will change out the chair, but for now--it's functional!
We revealed early because we were scared he would find it ahead of time and the surprise would be ruined. He loved his new surprise!
Now, we need to finally get our office in order...that's for another month...I'm pooped!
Today is Ash Wednesday, the first day of Lent. Lent is meant to be a time of repentance and reflection in the 40 days leading up to Easter (not counting Sundays). The 40 days is symbolic of the time Jesus spent in the wilderness fasting. Typically during Lent, a participant will "give up" or fast something. Those things range from meat, caffeine, chocolate, to various medias. Whatever is most important to you, that would be a sacrifice to do without, is usually a good place to start. Whether you decide to "give up something for Lent" or not...don't miss out on the times of "intentional" reflection.
Here are some awesome resources for you on your Lenten journey:
Yesterday, we visited Sam Houston's schoolhouse for his birthday celebration! We always enjoy our visits to this local museum and grounds.
My ancestry is from the Ogilvie clan in Scotland. My great-great....grandfather came over with his brother and fought in the Revolutionary War. The president of the Knoxville Scottish Society was on hand yesterday to give us some of our family history and Sam Houston. The Ogilvie's are related to the royal family and they have the most intricate tartan!
I also learned that there are free bagpipe lessons offered at Maryville College...definitely checking into that for Daniel. AND there are ladies from DAR (Daughters of the American Revolution) at the library every Thursday morning that will help you with the paperwork to become a member. Since Tera will be studying the American Revolution next year, I'm thinking this will be a great assignment for her!
There were demonstrators with hands-on fun....
music and food...
and lots of fun!
These last two photos are compliments of the Sam Houston Schoolhouse facebook page or to find out more visit their website. They are the only photos I have of Tera and myself from the day. Go check out their page and send them a friend's request. It's a good way to stay informed of the latest events and they even have a trivia contest going on this month to win a free year's membership!
On Monday, our lives change in a very big way. You see, for the past 7 years, JP has worked 2nd shift. He's slept in and worked late for 7 years. We've been quiet in the mornings, so we wouldn't wake up Daddy. We've eaten our big meal of the day at lunch for 7 YEARS!!! Now, everything is changing. With his new position the past year, he's been working into the wee hours of the morning. It's been hard on him physically. We've seen less of him and he is just tired all the time. Months ago, he was chosen to change to 1st shift on a new line in the same department. Finally, the move is happening this week! We will be spending quite a few weeks adjusting to earlier rise times, earlier bed times, nightly routines that include Daddy, trying to figure out alone time, and the change in our meal schedule. I know it's going to be rough to start.
I also know this is going to be great for JP and our family and I just can't wait!!!!
I saw this great short film a while ago (You really need to watch it!) and it came to mind today as I have been pondering this whole issue of validation and social media.
In this online world, we often put conditions of our feelings of being worthy, having "arrived" or being "validated"--
If I have so many subscribers to my blog...
If I get this many page views in a month...
If my facebook page has this many likes...
If my posts are retweeted by someone more "influential"....
If I make money from my blog....
Then, I'll be happy.... Then, I will have made it....
It doesn't work! It shouldn't be like that!
Sometimes, we look for validation and affirmation from people who don't even know us. We take our self worth from the number of likes we get on a status or how many retweets we get. We can so often miss out on the experiences and people in real life...
I enjoy writing this blog and I used to not care how many people read it. Somewhere along the way I got a bit more concerned with stats, followers and how to reach more people on facebook. A lot of my online acquaintances are "professional" bloggers, so I got caught up with all the ins and outs of the business side.
When all I really want is an outlet, a hobby, a way to express things to whoever stops by and wants to read. I still can find myself thinking about things, comparing myself....
Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with people making a living from blogging. It's great if that's your desire. But I need to remember I'm not one of those people.
I want to get back to my original purpose...to journal our life's journey and try to help people when I can! Writing what I want, when I want, being true to my calling instead of trying to gain "validation".
Encouraging others and validating them--not for their accomplishments, but for who they are and why they are special. Getting my validation from the Creator and fulfilling my purpose in HIM!
So whether we are at home or away, we make it our aim to please HIM.
2 Corinthians 5:9
Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men,